Question for you: What makes you unfuckwithable? Is it your adaptability? Ability to empathize well? Seemingly bottomless wisdom? Unshakable confidence? Photographic memory?

Real quick before I start, the point of this post isn't an exercise to brag about myself, but for you to begin thinking about what makes you unfuckwithable, because I believe EVERYONE has that one trait within them. Personally, I put in some effort during these past few years and came up with my ability to adapt quickly and effectively. That wasn't a skill I consciously tried to train, or one I picked out of a 'box' to focus on, it was just...there, but let me take a crack at how I think it came about. Maybe how I think this through might help you find your thing, if you haven't already!

I have a propensity to get very frustrated when things aren't going the way they need to go when I'm working (everyone does, right?), but not outwardly though, more so inwardly. I get internally frustrated at how I mishandle my time, fumble through a block of code, and even when I mess up making my lunch and it's taking longer than usual and I'm slammed with work. What's really weird though is that for some reason, when I hit "peak frustration", something clicks in my brain and I just lock into whatever I'm doing, and I stay that way for the rest of the day until the day is finished, and suddenly I return to a normal, chill state. Some people call it "flow", so we'll go with that.

My brain goes into flow, and I just take control of annoying situations as best I can and just get what I need to done, obstacles be damned. I don't think about the blocker anymore, I don't worry about what's going wrong, and I push through focusing on what solutions could work, and relentlessly iterate. If I'm heading into a meeting and there's not much of a discussion, I'm in there trying to stimulate conversation and move it forward. If I'm pair programming I'm coming up with alternatives if we hit a snag or at the very least trying to push the rock up the hill with them on a potential solution, I'm there to help, not add to any existing headaches.

What makes me unfuckwithable is my adaptability, and I never asked for it, nor would I ever give it back to the universe that gave it to me. I think the lesson here is that over time you can and will observe repeated patterns of your behavior, either passively or actively, and I think the secret to finding what makes you unfuckwithable is being actively aware of those patterns good or bad, recognizing each one, and cultivating the good ones to make a positive impact on yourself and others, while confronting and fixing the bad.

Thanks for reading.